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Socializing and Networking

Do you sometimes spend a lot of time with a friend, then leave them and feel completely energized, inspired, and ready to take on the world?

Have you spent time with someone and felt you immediately needed a nap? Like you had just used all your energy and needed to be plugged in, like your phone, to recharge?

I have experienced both of these situations over time. 

At first, I thought I felt drained because I leaned more toward the introverted side. 

But as I slowly started paying more attention, I realized that no matter how introverted I was, I would get energy around a specific few individuals.

Then I came across the idea of Energy Creators vs. Absorbers.

This simple model says that there are two types of people.

The creators create energy for others. They are the people who would make a room alive simply with their presence. They bring out a side of you that makes you feel more alive.

When they leave, you feel inspired and motivated to work on all those things you have been putting off because of the energy they share with you.

The absorbers require others to feed them with energy. It feels like they suck the life out of the room when they enter and make you feel drained and like a huge burden is on your back. Exhausted is an understatement when they leave.

It doesn't matter if you are thinking about it personally or professionally; wouldn't it be great to be a creator instead of an absorber?

Here are some of the things that Energy creators possess:

 Movement is important to them. They move around and get you to do the same, creating energy.

Energy Creators have a deep desire to learn; they are curious about things, and this, in turn, translates to you, your conversations, and the ideas you share.

 Energy creators believe that they hold the power of personal change in their hands. They don't spend time doubting themselves or limiting their beliefs.

 Energy Creators don't need to receive praise or any form of external motivation. Instead, they find the motivation to grow and perform well within. They take enjoyment in the process.

 Energy creators consistently show up for their cause. They're there when you expect them to be and when you don't. They show up every day.

Do you possess the traits of an energy creator or those of an energy absorber? What can you do to be a creator for those around you?

Energy Vampires! Are you one?

Have you ever sat in a room with people laughing and enjoying themselves yet felt lonelier than ever? You couldn't connect with or relate to them and questioned why you were there.

Christmas is usually a time you spend with your family and friends. And as happy as it can be, sometimes it shows us that we are outgrowing certain relationships. Yet, it's a tough pill, so many of us turn a blind eye to it. 

This post will get you to reflect on relationships that take up most of your time


Who are the people you spend your time talking to and sharing ideas?

Can you list who they are in the order of who you spend the most time with?

When do you usually reach out to connect with them?

What do you spend the time doing when you are together?

You have heard the average of 5 people we spend time with, but I want you to dig deeper right now.

See, many times, we keep relationships going because they help us to feel less lonely. We hold on because when we are bored, they are there to allow us to feel less of that bad feeling.

But relationships are not meant to stop you from feeling the bad feelings. Relationships should bring out the best in you, motivate you, inspire, and challenge you to do great things. -at least if you want to continue growing.

So ask yourself, are the relationships you are holding on to doing this? Do you work together to do something remarkable? Or do you sit around and talk about people?

See, if you keep these relationships that make you feel less lonely, you don't open the door for the ones that could be truly powerful. You don't create space in your life for people that could inspire you to do greatness.

Accepting the reality of these relationships that only make us feel less lonely is not easy. But it's the only way we can create space in our lives.

When you accept that a relationship is not fulfilling, you will feel less guilt when letting go of it. But that doesn't mean that it will be easy.


As we start 2024, I challenge you to take some time to reflect truly on your close relationships. Ask yourself if they are filling you up, contributing positively to your life, and inspiring you to do greatness.

Be honest with yourself; if they aren't, create space for relationships that will do that and more.

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Fullfilled or Less Lonely?- Reflections in the New Year

Relationships are some of the most beautiful parts of our lives. Yet, they can sometimes be the cause of tremendous pain and disappointment.

If you find yourself struggling in a relationship you will want to read this. It's true for both platonic and romantic relationships.

See, it doesn't matter the nature of any relationship, these 4 little monsters can ruin it. This is why it's important to notice them and kill them, before they get too big to control.

I read about these R's  from Barbara De Angelis's book "How to Make Love All The Time." In it, she explains that every relationship has signs along the way to ruin.

The problem is that most people choose to ignore the signs.  Rather than accepting them and dealing with them immediately, they sweep it under the rug.

Resistance is the uncomfortable feeling you get in your stomach, when someone does something that you don't appreciate. Usually, their actions are small. Because of this, your nature is to not want to make a big deal about it.

So instead of telling the person how what they did made you feel, you choose to ignore it.  You pretend like it doesn't affect you, and try to forget about it.

You repeat this over and over again. You decide that it's too small to even matter.

Although the act is different every time, the resistance start's to build up. Soon, every little thing starts to annoy you.

As this continues to grow it starts to turn into the second R.

Resentment is the build up of all the little negative feelings that you didn't communicate. Except that now, you don't feel annoyed or taken advantage of, instead you feel angry. Everything the other person does, makes you angry.

You start to distance yourself and limit communication as much as you can. You start pulling away.

In the resistance phase, the other person may have no clue of something being wrong. In the resentment phase, they do. The problem is, that because you are feeling resentful, everything makes you angry.

This becomes confusing to the other person since they can see that something is wrong. However, they can't tell what it is.

So they also start to pull away...... Leaving the relationship to move onto R3.

In the rejection stage, you start to attack the other person. You do this by looking for ways in which they are wrong. You overlook intentions, and try to pinpoint as much wrongs that they do.

This stage is also usually accompanied by physical and emotional distancing. You reject offers of affection, love or support. If the other person was not feeling the same as you, it is in this stage that they start to build up the R's.

And this is when you start heading to the final R.

In this stage, you become emotionally exhausted. You are tired of fighting. You are tired of being angry. You are tired of the rejection, so you turn off your emotions.

You stop feeling all these negative emotions. But you also stop feeling all of the positive emotions as well.

This relationship no longer brings you joy or fulfillment the way it used to before. You can't feel the bad emotions, but you also can't feel the good ones.

Nobody can see anything wrong. But there is no more care. There is no more love. There is especially no more communication. This is the most dangerous part of the relationship because there isn't anything left.

See, the key to avoiding having any of your relationships slip through the cracks like this, is simple. Communication!

In the beginning, when you start to feel the annoyance of the small things, you need to communicate it. The other person cannot know that these things bother you if you don't communicate it.

It's a lot easier for you to make a small deal about a small thing, the minute it happens. It's harder for you to wait, until you have so much bottled up that you end up making a big deal about a small thing.

If you find yourself at either stage of the 4R's, the solution is still the same. Communication!

It's hard to train yourself to speak up when something isn't right. But by doing this, it helps the other person to know what your boundaries are. If they really care, they will try to respect them.

As you build your communication muscle, you will  move down to less intense negative feelings. Your relationship can start to feel like it once did. And the other person will also start to understand when something is wrong.

This week, I want you to identify a relationship that has been in trouble. Then try to figure out where you are on the R scales. Commit to communicating with the other person. Start slowly, with the small things. Do it with the intention of saving the relationship.

The Four R's That  Ruin Relationships

Sometimes we rush through life, getting from one place to another. We are constantly pursuing one goal after another. It’s rare when we take time to reflect. It's rare when we are truly present. This stops us from acknowledging the little things that make us happy.

This truth caught me off guard this week as I came across a thread while browsing twitter.

So, I had to share what I found with you. These are based on a scientific study, done by The American Time Use and  Our World In Data. However, it was the thread from 

Sahil took all the data from this study, and combined them into graphs. These reveal six eye opening truths about the life that we live.

Most of us, myself included, sometimes take our families for granted. Putting our goals, partners and other ambitions ahead of it. It’s not until we lose one of our loved ones that we are hit with the harsh truth about it.

This graph shows that after the age of 20, most of our family time starts to dwindle. We spend less and less time with our family. This means that if family is important to you, you should try to make the most of it.  Be present and cherish the moments you have with your family. Disconnect from all the technology the next time you are around them. It may be one of few encounters left.

2. Friend Time Diminishes - Value quality over quantity

After the age of 18, the time we spend with friends starts to decrease. Our circles get smaller and smaller. It’s thus the reason why it’s important to choose the people who remain in them wisely. Surround yourself with people who don’t drain you. Surround yourself with people who challenge you and push you to be better. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh.

Because as the friendships are reduced in quantity, they should increase in quality.

3. Time spent with Your Partner is significant- Choose Wisely

In your journey for love, keep this in mind. After the age of 20, we spend a significant amount of time with our partners. Choose wisely. Find someone who you can enjoy being crazy with, but can also sit in silence with. Find someone who makes you appreciate the small things in life. At the end of the day, these are the things that will bring you the most joy. So slow down and take the choice as seriously as it is.

4. Time with your Children is Important- Prioritize it

One of the most challenging things in life is to balance having children and the pursuit of career goals. This chart shows you that after the age of 30, the time you spend with your children starts decreasing. Meaning, that you should make sure that when you spend time with them, you are present.

Try to be there for the important moments and the small things. The years of them being small and cute, are going to go by so fast. Don’t forget to enjoy them, and value the small details.

5. Coworker Time Increases- Choose your work carefully

Between the ages of 20-60, you spend a significant portion of your life at work. You should be careful when selecting your workplace and environment. The people you work with will be of significant influence and value to your life. Keep this in mind as you choose.

This is 40 years, interacting with the people you work with. This is most of your adult years, surrounded by these people about 8 hours per day.

to read our post about finding meaningful and balanced work. 

This data shows that for most of us, the time that we spend alone will continue to increase through our lives. The thing is, many of us, don’t know how to sit and be alone. We don’t know how to enjoy our own company.

Every time we are alone, we find ourselves browsing smartphones looking for entertainment. We look for these things to fill that silence. But imagine how amazing it would be if we just found peace with being alone.

Imagine the beauty of learning to enjoy this time we have to ourselves.  We should use our alone time to know ourselves, love ourselves, and learn to enjoy our own company.

Having these 6 truths at hand, and knowing that most of our lives will be this way, here is your challenge. Sit down this week, and try to find the one truth that speaks to you the most. Then try to live everyday knowing you are choosing to make the most of the time.

And share this with someone who you think would enjoy these truths about how we spend our time.

The No Bullshit Truth About How We Spend Our Time

Do you feel like your career or business is stuck? Are you looking for a way to reach more people?

Are you trying to find a way to increase your monthly income? Or looking for a connection to hook you up with a new job?

People always emphasize the importance of networking with others in your field. They say that it's one of the fastest ways to speed up your career or grow your business. But they also don't tell you all the other benefits that come from it.

We looked at 3 reasons why you should consider attending events to  expand your network.

1. Challenge your Comfort Zone and Build Confidence

Introverted or extroverted, networking will push you out of your comfort zone. This is because networking will expose you to new people and ideas.

You will learn and become more confident in your manner of approaching people. You will develop knowledge about the new topics these people find interesting.

The more you attend networking events, the better your social skills will become. It will be easier for you to find common points of interest with new people.

The people that you meet will also see the confidence that radiates from you. This confidence will make them drawn to you

They will be curious about the person that you are and the ideas you talk about.

All in all it's a skill that becomes easier the more you do it. This confidence then translates to other parts of your life. Your business, your career, your relationships etc.

Being more comfortable talking to new people can make it easier for you to pitch your ideas to a new customer. You can even be more confident when asking for a promotion or a raise at work.

Now isn't that something that should inspire you to push and get out of your comfort zone?

Curiosity is one of the things that keep us learning. Yet, it's like a muscle, if you don't use it, it looses its strength.

When you attend networking events, you learn something important about connecting with people.

           'You learn to make yourself interested.'

Becoming interested in what people share; makes it easier to make meaningful connections. The people you meet will reciprocate your curiosity with curiosity.

You will continue to learn about their interest, as you make deeper connections with them.

Increasing your curiosity can expand your knowledge to new ideas, events, or people. It can expose you to things you never considered important before

These things can be the stepping stones to a new life, business or career you never dreamed about.

As social beings, we long for genuine and intimate connections.

But because of the fast paced world that we live in, we settle for the quick like or comment we get from social media.

These are not the meaningful connections we need to give our life meaning.

Networking is usually done in a less professional environment. It should be relaxing, and filled with sharing your ideas while learning from others.

You will experience a different type of connection when you remove the distractions. You will learn how to take time to understand a person.

You can meet people to help hold you accountable on your journey. You can meet people who inspire you as they share how they overcame the same problems you face today.

You can even meet people who might have another contact or connection to help you get where you want to go.

I know that as a busy professional or an entrepreneur, you may not want to set time aside to go to an event.

It may be very hard to attend events that don't fit into your schedule or need and unreasonable commute.

But I do urge you to make time to network.

Surround yourself with people who are also pursuing a goal. Be motivated and inspired by the work others are putting in.

And you never know, they may be the key that brings everything together when you least expect it.

The problem is, where do you go to do this? And, who has time for it?

Most networking events are sporadic. This is because there is so much that goes into organizing them. But this makes it hard for you to build and maintain relationships with the people you meet.

It's even harder to try and make these events fit into your schedule.

Do you want to expand your network and gain these benefits?

I challenge you to join our networking event this week.

The event takes place the first Thursday of every month. Starting this Thursday October 6th, 2022.

We use google meet, to join from home. We limit the number of people that can join to 50. This will make sure we can arrange small enough groups for you to have one-on-one time with the people at the event.

If you want to learn some networking tips, check out an older blog post 

And comment below to share other networking events that happen in Belize.

Your Network Determines Your Net worth- 3 reasons why you should build it

Hey aspiring entrepreneurs, business people and everybody else trying to build their network. Do you enjoy all that goes into networking?

All my life, I have considered myself an introvert. I have worked very hard to step out of my comfort zone, and be better at it. Sad to say, I still kinda suck. Yet, as a business owner, I know of the importance that it plays.

It’s a great way to meet mentors, and other like minded business owners who don’t have time otherwise to get out and socialize, because of the grind that we all know goes into building a business.

The uncomfortableness and idea of having to step out of my house makes this one of the hardest goals to stick to every year. Then there is also the fact that I’m living in Taiwan, and really just want to connect with entrepreneurs in Belize.

So I have an idea, and hear me out before you stop reading.

What if we have an online event, created like speed dating to be able to meet other entrepreneurs across the Country? No selling, no alternate ideas, no flirting, just plain out networking? Wouldn’t that be fun?

What if we could be in the comfort of our own homes?

Come online, use the tips I’m about to give you and just socialize and interact with other Belizean trying to connect with people that have similar or different visions than ours. Wouldn’t that be great?

It would give us an opportunity to meet other people with similar goals and aspirations. It could also help us to develop a new sense of community. Share ideas and grow together.

Would this be something you would consider doing?

If I can get 20 people to actually agree to give it a try with me, then I’ll organize it and we can do it.

All with the purpose of giving you and myself an opportunity to use the following tips and tricks to become better at it too.

In order to get the most out of networking, you need to have a clear understanding of what it is that you are looking for.

Are you trying to connect with other entrepreneurs? Are you trying to find a mentor or mentee? Are you trying to connect with people who might buy your products or have connections with those who might buy it?

Having clear answers to these questions can help you to choose specific events that you would like to attend, and better choose events where you could meet the type of people you would like to form connections with.

Starting with a goal in mind, will keep you from just going with the flow.

One of the hardest parts of networking is breaking the ice, especially for people who aren’t naturally extroverted.

By wearing something that helps you to stand out, it makes it easier for others to approach you. It lightens the mood and gives you something fun and daring to break the ice.

If your clothing catches people’s attention, make eye contact with them, then say something about your clothing to start the conversation. It’s that easy, and you could be surprised about where the story of a green hat could end up.

If networking is not something that comes naturally to you, then spending some time rehearsing your introductions, or some common ideas that may come up will be very useful.

Have a clear idea of what it is you would like to communicate to others about yourself, your goals, your business or even your hobbies.

If you are sharing ideas about your success or business, try to find more natural ways to share them, instead of going for an outstanding elevator pitch that might come off as bragging to other people.

Then, clarify your ideas about specific topics so that when they come up, you don’t find yourself wandering around in circles.

Aim for Meaningful Connections That Leave Room for Curiosity

Networking events are usually set up to be done in short transactional interactions. People know this, and don’t seem to mind it.

Yet, whenever you meet connections that could lead to developing strong mutually beneficial relationships, make it meaningful while leaving room for curiosity.

This means, don’t spend all your time talking to them, but instead make your way around the room and be sure to check back with them before the end of the event. Share contact information and restate something that you found interesting about your conversation with them.

Then actually follow up with them after the event.

This is the most important part, if you want to make real connections, give the people you meet your undivided attention. Listen, and be interested in what they are talking about.

Ask questions if you are really curious and make the people see that you actually care. This is one of the best techniques to build connections, yet, we overlook it because it can sometimes feel like we aren’t getting the time to share.

So, remember the importance of being an active listener

Try the back packet question if you find that you are constantly at a loss for words. Click 

Choose an event to attend this week. Try out two of these tips to make networking a lot less overwhelming. And Let us know how it goes. Good Luck!

Leave us a Comment to let us know which event you will be attending on our social media page under the blog post link so that we can also know about them, and to help others to know about them too.

Let us know if you would be interested in doing an online social networking event for 1 hour. Comment interested and dm your email.

IF WE GET 20 PEOPLE INTERESTED, WE WILL DO IT!

Tips to Get Over the Pain of Networking

You eva watch somebody do something and think, man he da wa eeediat? I’m sure that it has crossed your mind for many different reasons. Were you wrong? Were they wrong?

If you were to take a step back and observe human behavior, at some point, you would probably be left feeling confused.

Why do people do things the way that they do? Aren’t they aware that there is an easier way to do it? Why do they react so quickly without taking time to consider all aspects of things?

Thomas Erikson’s book, “Surrounded by Idiots” was a game changer for me. It made it easier for me to reflect on my actions and understand the way that I am. It also guided me as I began to observe the behaviors of others.

I remember hitting that 'ah huh' moment when it was so clear why others would do things differently.

While I was reading, I could identify thoughts, and patterns that seem to fit with the way I think and act. I also saw pictures of those around me pop up in my head as I learned about the different types of behaviors associated with people in different groups.

He also points out that it's important to remember that most people are made up of a combination of two colors, although one color will always be more dominant.

According to Erikson, people’s behavior falls within 4 aspects that can be seen in the table below. They are assigned a color based on where their behavior falls.

Blue people are believed to be slow to react, cautious and organized. They focus a lot on the past to determine future actions. 

Their actions are based more on being organized and objective, and less on forming relationships. Can you think of a blue person?

Reds are the opposite of blues in terms of reaction. They like to do things quickly and analyze later. 

They enjoy having control of things, and throw caution out of the window in relationships. They are direct, and focus on NOW. Can you see yourself being red?

Greens are calm and level headed individuals. They love making connections, and don’t have a high tolerance for change.

 Greens focus on NOW, in a way that is very supportive of others. This also means that they do their best to avoid conflicts.

Yellows are similar to reds in terms of reactions, they are impulsive and not very analytical. People who are considered yellow are more focused on the future. 

They don’t like routines and love to be very involved. They love being surrounded by others and fear not having people to talk to.

You may often think that your way of doing things is the right way. At least that’s how I felt, and still sometimes feel. 

Yet, after learning about the four types of human behavior, it has been easier to remind myself that I am not actually surrounded by idiots.

Understanding the four behavior types makes it a lot easier for us to put ourselves in other people’s shoes. It makes it easier to understand how we are different, and why we act and think differently.

It can help us to be more open and accepting of other people’s thoughts and actions.

Take a look at the table above, and try to identify where the people that are important to you fall based on their behaviors. Then think about the traits that are innate to them, and how they are different from you. Make an effort to understand how you are different. This is key to managing those relationships. Focus on understanding and accepting how different you are.

I promise, it changes our approach and ability to accept the things that people do.

If you want to fully understand these behaviors, I highly recommend reading the book. Since this post is too short for me to summarize and give you all the valuable things that I learned from this.

Socializing and Networking

Energy Vampires! Are you one?

Fullfilled or Less Lonely?- Reflections in the New Year

The Four R's That Ruin Relationships

The No Bullshit Truth About How We Spend Our Time

Your Network Determines Your Net worth- 3 reasons why you should build it

Tips to Get Over the Pain of Networking

Andastan 'Human Behavior' Mek Yuh Undastand Weh People Duh

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